As parents our default setting can be to ask questions…1) ”what did you have for lunch?”, 2) “who did you play with?” 3) “how do you feel about that?”. Answers are often…1) can’t remember 2) don’t know 3) fine. So we know that actually questions often provide us with less information rather than more.  We…

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By making children feel bad doesn’t make them behave better. A lovely example of this presented itself today. I opened a whole load of Amazon packages for many birthdays coming up soon. Mr 4 asked who they were for and we talked through which presents were for which friends. Next thing..from Mr 4…”you didn’t get…

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All the blogs and websites I seem to be addicted to reading, talk about remaining calm and being “unruffled” in situations where your child is testing. I agree, shouting and losing your cool should not be the default for managing testing toddlers. However, thinking about the development of emotional intelligence, life isn’t about not making…

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I notice less tantrums with H when I explain whats going to happen. Scenario: H loves “telly time” and given the chance would work his way through Netflix Kids in one sitting. Normally – he’ll be watching a programme, it will finish and he’ll say “Mammy I want to watch something else”. I’ll then say…

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I like it when bits of my life, or interests let’s say, overlap. I’m beginning to see the mindfulness / parenting link come together. I’ve been reading a book called “mindfulness in life” and doing my (supposed) daily meditations. I think something might have clicked recently. About how I can only control my feelings/ thoughts/emotions…

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