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Hitting…panic no, support yes

I have this first hand in my world at the moment from my 2 year old and lots of Mammy’s seem to be mentioning it. So it made me bury my head  in my respectful parenting books and pull together some stuff which will be helpful for the child. I think responding in the way…

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Silence the critical mind…for ourselves and our little people

“The only truth there is, is within ourselves…that gut reaction, that feeling…listen to it”. Why do we ignore the signs and think later…I knew it!! Often we don’t trust ourselves. We doubt ourselves and listen to others. We grow up being guided by parents and school and then get to an age…perhaps 40! And only…

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The wonders that happen when we hold our tongue

There are so many times each day when I could impose my thinking on my little people. Because after all, we’re the adults and our job is to teach isn’t it? But if we look at the situation through little eyes…how can we know best?We’re old eyes! We’re experiencing the situation, whatever it may be,…

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Breathe & remember

By making children feel bad doesn’t make them behave better. A lovely example of this presented itself today. I opened a whole load of Amazon packages for many birthdays coming up soon. Mr 4 asked who they were for and we talked through which presents were for which friends. Next thing..from Mr 4…”you didn’t get…

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Big Feelings – Little People

I knew my son starting school would have its challenges…full days; new activities and experiences; change of teacher. And knowing my sensitive little soul, I’ve been waiting for the outpouring of emotion. Week one came and went. Still waters remained. Despite not telling me much about his day, I got a sense that things were…

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Naming the emotion vs stopping the behaviour

This photo was taken a few minutes after Storm Hugo-Finn, and there could have been quite a different outcome. Hugo (4) was saying to Finn (2) in the photo….”Here Finn, I have made this for you. You can play with this one while I make another for me”. Three minutes prior,was quite a different story.…

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There’s some things they are just not going to like

My heart has physically just felt like it had swollen. Like in a cartoon, where Popeye sees Olive Oil! I’ve just been in to see Hugo as he sleeps – his eye brows looking massive as the remnants of his “Ninja” face paint remains. He has shown me his little soul today…well actually, in truth,…

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The problem with ‘should’

  This word “should” has dominated my mind today and as a result it’s not been the best day. Being at home with my two boys (3 and 1years old) is never easy but with the right mindset, it’s exhausting but generally I feel I’ve done ok. And then there’s those days like today. As…

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Look beneath the behaviours

Im beginning to realise more and more that parenting is something you need to be mindful of. It is an actual job that needs consideration, thought and effort! Every situation the mind is working…logistical planning; tantrum handling; and thinking things through from the child’s point of view. It so much easier just to punish and…

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Its ok to make mistakes

All the blogs and websites I seem to be addicted to reading, talk about remaining calm and being “unruffled” in situations where your child is testing. I agree, shouting and losing your cool should not be the default for managing testing toddlers. However, thinking about the development of emotional intelligence, life isn’t about not making…

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