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Naming the emotion vs stopping the behaviour

This photo was taken a few minutes after Storm Hugo-Finn, and there could have been quite a different outcome. Hugo (4) was saying to Finn (2) in the photo….”Here Finn, I have made this for you. You can play with this one while I make another for me”. Three minutes prior,was quite a different story.…

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There’s some things they are just not going to like

My heart has physically just felt like it had swollen. Like in a cartoon, where Popeye sees Olive Oil! I’ve just been in to see Hugo as he sleeps – his eye brows looking massive as the remnants of his “Ninja” face paint remains. He has shown me his little soul today…well actually, in truth,…

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The problem with ‘should’

  This word “should” has dominated my mind today and as a result it’s not been the best day. Being at home with my two boys (3 and 1years old) is never easy but with the right mindset, it’s exhausting but generally I feel I’ve done ok. And then there’s those days like today. As…

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Look beneath the behaviours

Im beginning to realise more and more that parenting is something you need to be mindful of. It is an actual job that needs consideration, thought and effort! Every situation the mind is working…logistical planning; tantrum handling; and thinking things through from the child’s point of view. It so much easier just to punish and…

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Its ok to make mistakes

All the blogs and websites I seem to be addicted to reading, talk about remaining calm and being “unruffled” in situations where your child is testing. I agree, shouting and losing your cool should not be the default for managing testing toddlers. However, thinking about the development of emotional intelligence, life isn’t about not making…

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Preparation & Explanation

I notice less tantrums with H when I explain whats going to happen. Scenario: H loves “telly time” and given the chance would work his way through Netflix Kids in one sitting. Normally – he’ll be watching a programme, it will finish and he’ll say “Mammy I want to watch something else”. I’ll then say…

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Noticing our own thoughts and feelings

I like it when bits of my life, or interests let’s say, overlap. I’m beginning to see the mindfulness / parenting link come together. I’ve been reading a book called “mindfulness in life” and doing my (supposed) daily meditations. I think something might have clicked recently. About how I can only control my feelings/ thoughts/emotions…

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